Monday, December 26, 2022
If you were lucky enough to know Mary, you were blessed. If you didn’t really know Mary, let me tell you about the Mary we knew. How someone so short could take on nearly anything and succeed where others failed, was a feat few could accomplish. Mary, was so kind-hearted. There wasn’t a thing she wouldn’t do or try to do for someone. Her love for everyone she met was obvious. And, she never met a stranger. She was always one of the first to welcome a new person to church or to whatever she was involved with.
My husband and I had the honor of driving Mary and Craig to church, followed by our weekly lunches. We alternated picking the restaurant each week. The irony, if you picked a place she wasn’t thinking about, she would mention where she thought you should go. Then on Sunday she would ask where you picked. If you told her the place she had mentioned, she always said “good choice, I probably would have picked that too!” We would smile at each other and happily drive there never revealing she had picked the place.
It probably wasn’t common knowledge, but Mary had a lead foot. When she was still driving to church we often left the parking lot before she did. However, it would never be long before she would be passing us on the highway always beating us wherever we might be headed.
I don’t know if anyone has the title of “expert puzzle solver”, but Mary would easily have won that title. Most of the time she worked 1000 piece puzzles. Some of them were so challenging, she would call in reinforcements to help. But, generally, she would proudly tell us what she had finished that week. People from church often came in with several puzzles to give to her. She had hundreds, which after she completed them, she often passed those along to some other unsuspecting person. There were times when the question of “Are you sure these people like you?’ would come up because the challenges were beyond belief. But, she was in her element. And, frequently she would be down to the last piece which was no where to be found. At least until Craig would pull it out of his pocket, place it in the puzzle and announce he finished the puzzle, or put in the last piece.
It would be easy to go on and on about a woman of many talents. We learned of the time she spent as a clown, she taught Mahjong, she played the piano and organ, she had a wonderful singing voice, she was a very talented artist, she had a ceramics business, worked with her husband in their coal company, taught school, volunteered at so many things it would be impossible to list everything. And, she loved to tell you about the day she rode an elephant. The list of accomplishments, interests, and challenges would take hours to complete.
But, the one thing you could never doubt was her faith. She didn’t just read the Bible, she lived it. Oh, there were a few times when she might say or do something she had to ask God to understand and forgive, but never anything even close to breaking a commandment. If by chance she said something that might have a double meaning, you could watch her blush, even at the age of 85.
We watched the changes in this lovely woman and it saddened us. But, no matter what, she displayed her sense of humor, and always took the best care of her husband, Craig. This woman, so small in stature, was a giant among others lucky enough to know her. We know she is in her element with God and all those she loved that went before her. No one could ever question her love for her husband, her family and those of us lucky enough to be her friend. We are comforted knowing she went at peace. Once she knew Craig would be taken care of, her duty was done, so she went to be with God where she is getting the best care anyone could imagine.
May she rest in peace and know how very much she was loved and will be missed.